While you’re brainstorming, get into a sentimental mindset by looking through pictures of you and the couple, reading inspirational quotes about marriage, watching romantic movies, or listening to love songs. That way, you’ll be in the mood to celebrate love.

How you met your friend Any fun adventures you’ve had together The funniest thing that ever happened to you together The most meaningful memory you have of them as a couple.

A funny toast can be memorable, but if you’re not comfortable with humor, don’t feel like you have to force it! You can make just as big an impact with a more heartfelt speech about what the couple means to you. [4] X Research source Think about what’s true to you, but also what will be appropriate for the crowd. For instance, if the couple’s families tend to be more reserved, you might consider giving a more serious speech instead of going for laughs. [5] X Research source

Be careful not to cross the line between gentle ribbing and being rude. Use your best judgment and your knowledge of the couple to decide what is appropriate.

For instance, you might say, “For those of you who don’t know me, I’m Laura. I’ve known the bride since middle school. We first met in Mrs. Johnson’s class, and we’ve been best friends ever since. ”

For example, you can say, “First, I just want to say what a lovely wedding this is. Thank you so much to Mr. and Mrs. Smith for throwing this wedding for these two wonderful people, and I am so honored to be able to speak here. ”

For instance, you might say something like, “I already told you I met Laura in Mrs. Johnson’s class, but what I didn’t tell you is that I was new, and I was so afraid about my first day at a new school. Laura made me feel instantly comfortable—and she’s never stopped being the same kind, thoughtful person I met that day. " To keep the focus on the couple rather than yourself, limit how much you say things like “I” and “me. “[10] X Research source

For instance, you might say, “When Laura first told me about Joe, I wasn’t sure what to think. But when I finally met him and I saw how he looked at Laura, I knew they were meant to be together. " Avoid choosing memories that might be embarrassing for the couple, and try not to include any inside jokes that might only be funny to a few people in the crowd. [12] X Research source

You might say, for example, “I hope and wish for the best for both of you. You two are meant for each other, and I know that your love will be an inspiration to us all. " You could also include advice for their future marriage, a quote, or a short poem. [14] X Research source If you have a great joke or a witty line, say it at the end. This will make your toast stick in the minds of your listeners.

A toast can be as simple as “To the couple!” or more elaborate, such as, “To my best friends, may you forever be joined in love and affection. ”

If you type up your speech, it should only be about one page long.

As you read out loud, listen for any phrases that sound awkward or that might be a little tricky to say out loud, and edit them if you need to. Ask your family and friends to listen as you give the speech. They can give you feedback and constructive criticism to help you improve. Don’t worry about memorizing your speech completely—just be sure you know it well enough that you’ll only need to glance at your notes for an occasional reminder. [18] X Research source

As you’re speaking, hold your notes down so you can still make eye contact with the couple and the audience.

If you’re especially nervous, it might help to make marks on your notes in the best places to take a breath.

If you’re speaking into a microphone, hold it about 1⁄3 in (0. 85 cm) away from your lips, and use your normal speaking voice. If you don’t have a microphone, you may need to speak much more loudly than normal. If you start to cry, stop and take a deep breath. Dab away your tears, and begin again when your voice is steady. While crying is natural at a wedding, it can make you difficult to understand while speaking.

Be especially sure to smile if you’re telling a funny or lighthearted story. It’s okay if you get emotional, too, especially when you’re talking about something sentimental.

It’s okay to look out at the audience, as well—especially if you’re telling a story that includes some of the wedding guests!