Sexual abstinence—refraining from sex or masturbation for a period of time to spend your sexual energy elsewhere. Sexual expression—changing the way you engage in sex or masturbation to change the flow of energy.
Transmutation is a principle that goes back to the magick principles of alchemy: the belief that you can convert metals and other materials into something new. [3] X Research source
For example, you may set an intention to find peace in your work life, get out from under debt, or improve your relationship with a higher power. A lot of this is based on the laws of attraction—the belief that asking the universe for something while maintaining a positive mindset will get you what you want.
This will put you more in tune with your subconscious energy and elevate your awareness of your body. You may feel a little awkward doing this at first, but just relax as much as you possibly can and take your time.
Manifestation is the act of bringing personal goals into reality by pouring your spiritual energy into what you desire. The moment of climax is filled with a monumental amount of energy, so visualizing what you want in this moment can dramatically influence your future. If you’ve never experienced an orgasm, that’s okay! Some people simply don’t orgasm at all. [12] X Research source You can still try this if you’d like; just focus on the moment of highest intensity.
The idea here is that over time, you’ll naturally feel more creative and innovative just by abstaining from sex. By keeping your sexual energy bottled up, it will naturally flow to other parts of your life. Don’t force yourself to stay abstinent for an extended period of time if this doesn’t feel helpful or meaningful to you. Using abstinence to redirect sexual energy doesn’t mean that there’s anything intrinsically wrong with having sex or masturbating (there’s not). It’s just simply one method you may find productive.
If you’ve never used sex toys, now is the perfect time to start! There are all kinds of different toys out there that can generate unique sensations and help you stumble on to new energies and wavelengths.
Society puts a lot of messages out there—especially towards women—that can make you feel ashamed about your sexuality. Do not let that noise influence your energy. If you’ve experienced trauma in the past or you grew up in a super religious household and you’re struggling to reframe your perspective, talking to a therapist can dramatically improve the way you feel.
This is especially important if you’re using abstinence to redirect your sexual energy for more creative purposes.
Meditate, do yoga, and pray (if you’re religious) to revive your spiritual energy and get back in touch with your truest self.
Excessive porn consumption can also block up your sexual energy.
Tantric sex is all about getting to know your partner and letting your souls and emotional energies intertwine. Don’t fixate on the outcome—enjoy the journey! You might even experiment with having sex and intentionally stopping right before climax to harvest that sexual energy. This is known as edging, and it’s a popular way to maximize sexual energy. [22] X Research source
